SELF IMAGE and SOCIAL CONFIRMATION
40 and married. ... My foreskin has been tight for as long as I can
remember. I do remember once (about13 years old I think ) being taken
to my doctor about it, and the outcome I think, or his opinion, was
- "it will stretch".
"Sex has usually been stressful (rather than uncomfortable)
to the point where I dont have it now." ... (he describes) "a
thin strip of skin. It looks short - perhaps from the glands, about
2-3mm before it gets thicker and joins to the foreskin. ... This area
has ripped before during intercourse a couple of times. Small amount
of blood, a lot of worry, ... My penis softens ( perhaps cos I'm thinking
"this is gonna rip!)"
e.g.33 A man of 22 wrote "Up to now I had never really thought of it
in terms of something that I could cure, but rather just live with. "My frenulum was always very tight but I considered it normal
having nothing to compare with. Masturbating was a mix of thrill and
slight pain, which I started to accentuate over the years : pleasure
and pain, satisfaction and remorse/cupability - sometimes feeling that
my penis was going to "break", to bleed as a punition for masturbating.
I think I got used to it and it always remained easy to control pain
as I was masturbating.
"my frenulum ripped during penetration...I was very ashamed
and try to hide it...she noticed of course, the bed being full of blood
.... 4 days ago, my frenulum ripped again, very slightly in fact because
there is not much to rip, but still it has ripped. ... I feel I was
never informed about the condition and never properly examined by doctors
I have met during my schooling. The years going by, I got used to the
condition but I am now sure that this discomfort prevents me from an
optimal sex life. ... My frenulum, even after 4 rippings (and truly
speaking four mini traumas), is today still too tight.
"Thanks again for your work which has helped me to reconsider
my condition and at last to be convinced that if I am obsessed by my
genitals, I have a reason for. this."